Lets be Kind People

I awoke to the horrific news of the Manchester Arena bomb and I immediately turned off the news notifications on my phone.

Is ignorance bliss? No. Of course we need to know about these things. What we don’t need is the media circus that will now surround this atrocity.

Be kind today people. Turn off the telly. Do something nice for someone. Hug your loved ones. Call that friend you have been meaning to call. Tell your nearest and dearest you love them. Our time in this body is limited. Don’t put it off.

Love each other. It’s the only way forward.

Talk to yourself

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Have a word ..

.. or two with yourself.. and make them kind, empowering, supportive, positive.


We all have an internal dialogue and unfortunately it’s rarely good. I don’t know about you, but I’ve really struggled with that annoying little negative voice in my head, you know the one, the one that says;

“you can’t”, “you shouldn’t”, “you’re not good enough”

Once you’re aware of the little blighter (I’m gonna call mine Roger) you can’t seem to shut them up but I’m telling you that you can. You can replace them entirely. 🙂


You can replace them with whoever you choose so choose someone supportive, someone who encourages you with words of power, of can-do, of you are enough. My new voice is called Sally. She cheers me on, she tells me to go do, she tells me it will al be alright and that all I need to do is try.


I’ve heard it said that the quality of your life will be determined by the quality of the conversations you have with yourself. So mind your mind people. You ARE enough, you CAN do it.


You are worthy

Affirm it, believe it, know it.

 

it’s been to long!

Hello there. I’ve missed you.

Sorry for there being such a ridiculously long gap since my last post. Various things have conspired against me but I make no excuses, I’ve been neglecting you dear readers.

So I am just back from me holibobs with the lovely missus and while there, touring Cali in a drop top Mustang, we listened to some audio and one piece in particular resonated with me. So…. I made a little video to help explain it.

 

and do you know what.. it works. Try it for yourself and see. I would go as as far as to say that a little extra kindness could go a lot of the way towards solving some of the most significant problem our world faces.


Kindness is a way to be, a choice and if you filter your decisions and reactions through a ‘kindness’ filter then you can’t go too far wrong.


Have a lovely day people and make it better for yourself by doing something for someone today, something unexpected.

Thanks for being there.

A x

How lucky are we?

Sometimes we need a reminder and I got mine last night.

A reminder to live, a reminder of how lucky we are and how we should appreciate what we’ve got, shut up with our moaning and negativity and just get on with it.


I’ve been feeling a little less than my ridiculously positive self recently. A bit of self doubt creeping in perhaps, certainly a bit of complacency. Then last night I met Jill.


For those of you who don’t know, I volunteer at Stoke Mandeville Hospital Radio every Tuesday evening.

Click here to take a look

I joined up about a year ago with reasonably selfish reasons;

  • I wanted to learn about Radio
  • I wanted to practice my presentation skills
  • I thought I would enjoy it and I love music
  • I love entertaining people
  • I thought it might help launch my new career
  • Blah blah blah..

Now I get all the above (apart from the career launch bit, yet..) and I really love it, but part of my role as producer on the Tuesday night request show, is to go round the wards getting requests for the show. This is something I knew I would enjoy but I never expected it to be so profound.

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It’s funny isn’t, you do something and expect it will give you a certain result, but often that result turns out to be something different.


 

I am blessed. I get a weekly slice of perspective on what is truly important in life and it helps to drive me, it helps to ground me and it helps me to appreciate what I have. And I have a lot.

If you’re reading this on your computer or your smart phone or your tablet, you probably have a lot too.

Be grateful for it people. Use it. Use it wisely. Take the time you have and do something significant with it; tell that person you love them, turn off the telly and read that book you’ve been meaning to read for ages, hell WRITE the book you’ve been thinking about writing, book that holiday you don’t think you can afford, take that chance you’ve been talking yourself out of.

Take the shackles off your life and just get on with it. You see you never know just how long you’re going to have left to get it done.

Thanks for reading (and for watching)

A x

 

 

Pay it forward

Random acts of kindness

have a power that is quite remarkable.


I have realised this past year that there is a fundamental connection between all of us. It’s a connection that I think we have suppressed or maybe we have forgotten it existed at all. I don’t think the media helps (fear? anyone? anyone?) and there is a constant message that we are all different, unique etc. I also don’t think smart phones and headphones help, they’re almost a barrier to true hunan connection (and I’m as addicted as the next person btw).

Now I’m not saying that we don’t have unique individualities but there are are more fundamental similarities between us and I believe that we are, or at least can be, all connected.


You see once we understand that we are connected we start to be kinder to each other. When we understand that what we do to others, we do to ourselves, then the world we live in starts to shift.


I chatted with a guy in the gym on Wednesday. His name is Mark and he was wearing some funny looking compression socks on his calves. I have had a few calf injuries so I decided to strike up a conversation with him by asking him about his calf socks. Now this is a guy I’ve seen a few times, he (like most people) trains alone and seems to (like most people) avoid eye contact and he always trains (like most people) with his headphones on.

Once we got past the awkward repeat of my 1st sentence (headphones) I discovered that he’s a really nice guy. We chatted for maybe 10 minutes and it was easy, comfortable and informative. I learned all about the compression socks, triathlon and bare foot running. It was a nice chat and now I have made a friend at the gym that I didn’t have previously. Next time I see him I can say “hello Mark, how’s the training going?”. It’s the start of a relationship where before there was just 2 strangers.


Now I know this is not groundbreaking news and I’m not expecting you to be “ooing” and “aahing” at my incredible social grace. It was just simple and all it took was one comment, one ice breaker and I think we all need to do this a lot more than we do. When we do our world is enriched.


We all need to be kinder to each other. We are then kinder to ourselves.

Have a lovely day and thanks for reading.

A x

 

Just. Do. It.

Procrastination.

It’s a lonely word.. and it something that’s followed me all my life.

My Nan used to say..

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never put off till tomorrow what you should do today

Well Nan is Nan and I am me and I am an expert at putting off until next week what I should have done last month.

And that needs to change.

 

 

Anything Shia can do I can do too..

 

 

 

So whatever it is (and you KNOW what it is) JUST. DO. IT. Stop putting it off, stop making excuses and stop listening to that little bastard voice inside you that says

“You can’t do it” “You’re not good enough” “What if something goes wrong”..

It’s been said that the quality of your conversation with yourself will reflect the quality of your life, so shut that little negative git up and believe in yourself. Instead of thinking what might go wrong, think what might go right. Instead of thinking I shouldn’t, think I should.


 

You CAN, you WILL, you ARE. 

I CAN, I WILL, I AM. Now watch.

Have a lovely day people.

A x

What would love do?

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well re-learned perhaps. Or maybe reinforced? It’s funny isn’t it, when your on a certain path (and looking) that the same message comes up over and over..

I’d been listening to a Wayne Dyer audio during the day and he was talking about the ability we all have to choose our world, to literally create what we want from our thoughts and to not allow other peoples negativity to affect (infect) us.. interesting it was (I love Wayne).

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So I was at the gym yesterday and there is this young lady there who helps the people check in and out and stuff, a kinda PR person. She was having a bad day. She was pleased to see me because I am a smiley person and she said that all the people were grumpy and rude today.

Well what you think about you bring about. She was stuck in that rut and all she could see was negativity. I tried to help her and get her to see that not everyone was upset, angry or rude and that she could focus on the positive people and not let anyone who was negative affect her, but she was having none of it. By the time I came back down from the gym to go home, her day had descended into chaos and she was actually shouting at a customer as I walked past her. Ouch.


 

Last night I went to an event in London called the Landmark Forum.

for those who are interested

The room was packed, the presenter was amazing, the testimonials were moving and content was resonant.


The final piece of the night was about relationships and how we can transform them by the way we respond. It really struck a chord with me and reminded me again of the power of choice.

I liked it so much that I made a little video this morning to help share the experience.

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I thought my evening was done, but the Universe wasn’t quite done with me yet.. when I got home I picked up my book to read a little before my bed time meditation. My current evening read is “Conversations with God” by Neale Donald Walsch. It isn’t quite what it seems. It’s actually not a religious book at all but if you’ve any questions about life then I would highly recommend it. Neal (who is also not religious) was very angry so decided to write a letter to God expressing his frustration with his lot. As he finished the letter his hand was moved and he found that God answered him. He then entered into a conversation with ‘God’ and it makes for quite a read. Crackpot? Nut job? or Divine Inspiration? I’ll let you decide but I have found it to be quite a profound experience (oh and by the way, God has a wicked sense of humour)

Anyhooo. So I pick up the book and open it to the page I’d been at and this is what I read..

God- And so I tell you this: be now and forever centered upon your Self. Look to see what you are being, doing and having in any given moment, not what is going on with another. It is not in the action of another, but in your re-action that your salvation will be found.


 

The Universe works in strange ways indeed.

If you’re stuck with how to respond to someone or something that you perceive as negative in your life, ask yourself this question.

What would Love do?

Have a super Thursday my lovelies.

 

A x

 

Life’s too short

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to be serious all the time..

So this weekend, the missus, the dog and I took some much needed time out to have a date day.

The weather was a bit grey but we didn’t care and it didn’t stop us exploring. We live in High Wycombe which is fair to say, isn’t the prettiest of towns but it is surrounded by beauty; [thrive_highlight highlight=’default’ text=’light’][/thrive_highlight] Marlow and Henley on one side, Great Missenden and the Chilterns on the other. There are also lots of lovely little villages dotted around and we (on recommendation) decided to visit [thrive_custom_font id=’null’]Turville[/thrive_custom_font]


A short 15 minute drive away from us is Turville and it is simply gorgeous. It’s only little but it’s delightful, so delightful that Midsummer Murders, The Vicar of Dibley and scenes from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang were all filmed in the village.


 

We went for a walk up the hill and shot a little video. No positive message included. Unless you consider a bit of a giggle a positive message, which I suppose it might just be. Gents. Take your wives out more often, even if they don’t wanna go. It’s fun. 🙂

 

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Have a lovely day people. Hope this makes you smile.

 

A x

Accept it and flow

Acceptance = peace

So today I learned a lesson

and it’s a good one.

I learned to accept the way things are.

Simple right?

Yup, easy. And it leads to a cool place.


 

My friend Kia taught me that sometimes when things don’t go your way that it’s ok, that it is in fact just fine and this led me to the realisation that she is one seriously cool person. I mean can you imagine just not getting mad? Not getting angry? Ever? I know, it sounds like the holy grail, right? but seriously, when you realise that most often, the things that make you angry are out of your control or just there to teach you something, then life becomes a whole lot more fun.

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Today was epic. I was at a retreat and the setting was superb. The subject was Reiki, the class was ace, the people were lovely, the food was awesome and the setting was incredible. And there was a massive tree!

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How blessed am I?

Have a lovely evening people.

A x