Pay it forward

Random acts of kindness

have a power that is quite remarkable.


I have realised this past year that there is a fundamental connection between all of us. It’s a connection that I think we have suppressed or maybe we have forgotten it existed at all. I don’t think the media helps (fear? anyone? anyone?) and there is a constant message that we are all different, unique etc. I also don’t think smart phones and headphones help, they’re almost a barrier to true hunan connection (and I’m as addicted as the next person btw).

Now I’m not saying that we don’t have unique individualities but there are are more fundamental similarities between us and I believe that we are, or at least can be, all connected.


You see once we understand that we are connected we start to be kinder to each other. When we understand that what we do to others, we do to ourselves, then the world we live in starts to shift.


I chatted with a guy in the gym on Wednesday. His name is Mark and he was wearing some funny looking compression socks on his calves. I have had a few calf injuries so I decided to strike up a conversation with him by asking him about his calf socks. Now this is a guy I’ve seen a few times, he (like most people) trains alone and seems to (like most people) avoid eye contact and he always trains (like most people) with his headphones on.

Once we got past the awkward repeat of my 1st sentence (headphones) I discovered that he’s a really nice guy. We chatted for maybe 10 minutes and it was easy, comfortable and informative. I learned all about the compression socks, triathlon and bare foot running. It was a nice chat and now I have made a friend at the gym that I didn’t have previously. Next time I see him I can say “hello Mark, how’s the training going?”. It’s the start of a relationship where before there was just 2 strangers.


Now I know this is not groundbreaking news and I’m not expecting you to be “ooing” and “aahing” at my incredible social grace. It was just simple and all it took was one comment, one ice breaker and I think we all need to do this a lot more than we do. When we do our world is enriched.


We all need to be kinder to each other. We are then kinder to ourselves.

Have a lovely day and thanks for reading.

A x

 

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